Tuesday, December 08, 2009

the cynic speaks

i was watching some korean show on tv mobile that showed a marriage ceremony. the guy said a bunch of things and then he said "with this ring, i promise you".

which got me thinking. love and marriage are two very separate things to me. i could love a man, but that may not mean i would be willing to commit to a marriage with him.

love to me, is wanting to stay with a person for my entire life. but one doesn't have to get married and get papers and all in order to do that.

marriage on the other hand, is tying myself down to a promise that i cannot trust another to keep. and when that's weighed with the happy feeling of wearing a pretty dress for a day and taking photos that will be professionally photoshopped, i can't help but feel it isn't a good deal after all. (think - one happy day vs many upsetting ones!)

when people say "i promise", do they realise promises can be broken and do they really know what promises they and their other halves are making and what those really mean? a promise to love a person may not necessarily mean a promise to be monogamous, neither does a promise to care for a person for life mean a promise to care for the person both emotionally and physically, and to treat him/her as the one and only.

see. marriage is tricky.
bee at 2:08 AM