Saturday, June 07, 2008

Emotional Price Tags and all that baggage.

they say that nothing ever comes free, and i fully agree.

it may always seem that love or rather, being in love comes free when it is mutual. and that part of it i think is true. but when things sour, the existence of the emotional price tag which has all along been hidden in the bag of love suddenly pops up. and then we realise, nothing ever comes free.

i'm not sure if i've touched on this before over here. but i've always been amazed at how naturally different males and females are, in ALL aspects. there always seems to be some general traits which apply to the majority of each gender, and that really is quite something, considering God probably had that all planned out on purpose. haha.

apart from all the differences i've ever noted, the most amazing ones are those which involve our minds (like what makes us tick and what doesn't). for example, men in general seem to lie because they themselves would rather be lied to when sth bad happens, whereas women would "die-die" want to know the truth even if it hurts (it kinda always does, (otherwise we wouldn't always be dying to know) because we ourselves probably wouldn't lie about cheating, or that it wouldn't matter to us if the men found out.

while this may seem like a gender-dfference thing, i'm actually wondering if it could have been developed in us because of the way each of us were brought up? that's cos i truly believe that we always expect others to treat us in the same way that we treat them. for example, a kind person who expect others to treat him/her kindly (but unfortunately that's not how society is and so the truth hurts), and a meanie probably treats others meanly because he expects them to treat him meanly (i'm not surprised if his mindset would be sth like this: be mean to them before they're mean to you).

well i can't decide if these are simply gender differences or a matter of how we were brought up, but it could be former because i have yet to meet a woman who does not always seek the truth (even if she knows it's going to hurt). on the outside it may seem like she doesn't want to know (because knowing hurts) but deep down inside, we're probably all seeking answers. then again, people are all different and for all i know, there probably are loads of women out there who would rather be kept in the dark and not know, and lie to themselves and be lied to by others.

whatever it is, i'm touching on this because i think that no matter what we do, sometimes the right and wrong is so subjective that we ourselves are unclear and confused about it. is it right to lie when you don't want to hurt a person? is it okay when one doesn't lie to a person you know would rather not know the truth(people who would rather be lied to)? is it alright to lie when you know the person you're gonna hurt actually hates to be lied to?

the word 'hurt' keeps appearing, so matter what we do, right or wrong, yes or no, there's always an emotional price tag attached to it.

and while some people may think that being single and loveless is a good thing because you won't have to experience more hurt than there already is through an additional relationship in one's life, i think not. i think that being single and in love hurts as much as being in a relationship with someone.

so i am just wondering, in whatever we do, in whatever circumstances, how much of an emotional price am i prepared to pay for whatever situation i choose to put myself into?
bee at 10:14 AM